Fickle or Not....
I don't have to mention how challenging this year has been. We all have faced one challenge or another due to COVID: financial challenges, mental health challenges, loved ones health, children adjusting to online school, employment, and the list goes on. For me, the pandemic slapped me in the face. On a Friday everything changed and I found myself wondering "what was going to happen next". That is a term that I have learned to stop saying because when I ask myself "what is going to happen next", something happened. I'm not saying it was always a bad thing, but some kind of challenge would present itself.
Don't get me wrong, challenges are not a bad thing. When I am challenged, I find that once there is a resolution, no matter what that is, I feel accomplished. Challenges can be anything from fixing something in the house to my thought process. When something needs fixing, either I can fix it myself or I can call someone to fix it. There is YouTube, fix-it manuals or phone a friend. No matter what I can find help.
When the challenges include a thought process change, it can be a bit more challenging. Why? For one thing, society has taught us that your opinion should be black or white. There is no in between. You are either with something or against it, depending on how you look at it. If you waiver, you are considered indecisive and can't make up your mind, more or less "fickle". Yes, that is a word in the dictionary and have been called that on occasion. If you look up the definition of fickle, it basically means someone who changes their mind a lot.
In my opinion, being fickle isn't always bad. I choose to look at it as a good thing and here is one example of why. This year there have been many political issues and sometimes opinions are strong, which make it difficult for people to listen to each other. For me, it has been important to listen to others opinions/facts and consider the "what" and "why" of their belief. At times, this can help me understand the person and the subject at hand. It might even make me change my mind about the topic. Is that fickle? Yes and no? Yes, to some, changing an opinion that you have looks like you can't make up your mind. On the other hand, I would say that it is not "fickle". Instead, it is a sign of learning, sharing knowledge, and making an opinion change based on information you did not know. Now, if that opinion went back and forth based on who was providing the information, then it would be considered "fickle".
Challenges are inevitable and if we take the time to listen to others, it gives us the opportunity to face challenges head on. Once conversations are had and fair consideration is given, then we can move on and face another challenge.
Why not take some time today to really listen to what others have to say. Who knows what you might learn!